You do you.
High quality questions say something about you. Low quality questions do too. Would you ever hire someone whose question is like "so, do a lot of hotties work here?" Probably not, because ... what kind of person is this? Similarly, if the person who doesn't have an offer and doesn't know much about the role is hyper-focused on their time-off, something is off too. PTO is important, it's just a thing you need to be thinking about once you have an offer and think the job is otherwise a match, not as like the #1 question.
Yes yes yes I’m sure you’re changing the world and creating super exciting CRUD
Not that that's anything like a reason not to ask what you need to ask, and turn a Q&A into a brownnosing session.
You know, I actually found this comment clarifying. I don't look at work as solely exchanging time for money (don't get me wrong, I care about money a lot, I just want to get a lot more than money out of my work) so I was coming at it from a different direction.
I do think there's an employee-employer compatibility in play here. Because I care about engagement/mission, I tend to work at companies with a strong culture and seek the same when I interview others - but yeah it's a good reminder that this is not for what everyone wants/needs.
You seem to think that it should be one sided, with them doing all the selling/figuring though, which seems to be pretty problematic in other ways.
For some folks, at some times, that can certainly work. But it sounds like you want them to be in servitude to you, not an actual partnership.