I hate to break it to you, but 200k/yr is in the top 4% of earners in America. That's not "middle class" by any stretch of the imagination.
If you look at social class stratification, the general assumption is that if you have to work a job for your income, you're not upper class, you're serving in the employment of the upper class. If you have a high paying job, that's defined as "upper middle" social class at least until you have accumulated wealth to transition to a capitalist/owner/investor role (as some popular musicians and athletes do); being in the top 4% of earners is quite reasonable for traditional upper middle class roles e.g. independent lawyers and doctors, which also tend to earn 200k+/year in USA.