It's absolutely true that if you want to accomplish almost anything you need to endure some levels of suffering. There are a lot of people who just need to hear "quit complaining, quit trying to make it easier, and actually try". There are a lot of people who fail to achieve their goals because they don't try, they're too lazy and they're too nervous to push themselves.
But if you just try to push yourself as hard as you can for the sake of it, you'll waste your effort and burn out. Success requires effort but it's only means to an end: e.g. the success from releasing a product isn't the crunch time you put into it, it's the actual product. Hard work alone won't get you far, you also have to work smart. This is why IMO "embrace the pain" sends the wrong message, "accept the pain" might be better.
Furthermore, everyone has a limit and you have to understand yours. Too much suffering won't make you stronger, it will actually break you. A cruel realization is that there are poor people and laborers who've went through more suffering than you can imagine, and they don't have anything to show for it.
What? What planet is this? What I have seen is people rearranging their lives by changing their careers, which is hard. Being aware of the gaps in your life and then changing to fill them is extremely hard. Giving up money and prestige to spend time with kids who are not always grateful, at least at first, can be extremely difficult. The big trend I am seeing is people starting their own businesses instead of letting themselves be satisfied with being a corporate tool.
Going a step further, whatever metric this person is using that leads to such grand trivialization is likely to make them insufferable and impossible to reach. Have some feedback about what might make their latest offering more desirable? Sorry, too busy working hard to listen to your weakness based complaints.
Especially in the tech world my experience is that what really wins is being lazy and then extending that to allow others to be lazy. Always be alert for sharp edges can and should be sanded down to leave room for other stuff whether that is beach time, family time, or development time for the next big thing.
Wealth removes the day to day stress, and that goes a long way. But it doesn't bring happiness itself.
Same with work. Idleness is fun for a short while, then awful. We all know too much work is awful.
Feeling like you have a purpose is the most important thing. I think the formula for happiness is something like: avoid poverty but recognize there are rapidly diminishing returns on wealth, don't be idle but work on something purposeful, if you cannot find purpose in work find it elsewhere.
Oh and take care of your body!
But I completely agree, that having money to be able to live few years without additional income is absolutely important for living stress-less life.
Now my goal is to earn enough money to be free from work obligations for the rest of my life. That's how life should be. And it's a pity that one should spend half of his life just to get to that point. And for most people that's not even possible.
For me, the key to enjoying extended slack time is planning and putting in some effort. So basically not remaining idle for long.
I don't know what the solution is; inequality shows no signs of abating, disadvanted people find it difficult to get assistance, and there is a culture driven by articles like these that support the notion that "if you grind hard enough you'll succeed." Personally, I think we should be more sympathetic/empathetic to the plight of these people
The point is not that it is impossible to only work a few hours a week, it is indeed possible. The point is that if you do, you will not be happy, as you need difficulties, challenges and the feeling of progressing toward some goals to feel happy.
Yet, most people's objective is to indeed avoid difficulties. It seems today's holy grail is a high paying job, that requires little actual work.
The author is arguing that we should instead not try to find a way outside of difficulties, but to carve a path through them.
re-quoting from the article:
> "[...] Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor.”-Albert Ellis
Sure, that happens sometimes, but not all the time or even most of the time. It seems our anecdotal experience doesn’t agree.
I have OK genes (No chronic health conditions or learning disabilities) but far from winning the lottery. Let’s say I had perfect genes, naturally athletic, better mental acuity, and wealthy parents, maybe I would be worse off in life. The fact that I had to overcome challenges and take risks helped me become the person I am.
[1] https://www.businessinsider.com/beautiful-people-make-more-m...
If you push yourself hard, then you should also rest hard. You can burn yourself, you can destroy your immune system with stress and die from cancer in your 30s.
I know because I have worked the hardest a person can and gotten nowhere while watching other people succeed with little effort and have learn a lot from those guys.
Then I became much more successful doing much less effort.
I have seen people literarily kill themselves through work and getting miserable. Don't do that.
You must enjoy your wealth while you create it. Enjoy your journey, enjoy the process and things become easier.
Learn basic physics, learn productivity. The more output with the smaller effort, the bigger the efficiency. Master efficiency. Learn Pareto' principle. Learn habit formation so things become automatic and easy. Learn psychology so you understand people.
Learn your limits, pick the battles you could win and win big. Do NOT do work that brings you little while requiring significant effort.
If you work too much in the wrong things you will be miserable anyway.
You know what form of ease I have given up? The one where I am trapped in a cage, working on someone else's vision, just for a regular paycheck. I choose to work as hard as I can. To suffer brutally. To not know if I will have money coming to me. I grow my own food. I make my own clothes. I 3D print all my tools, and assemble them from PCB level parts up (Hoping to be able to print basic circuit boards with conductive filament soon).
I consciously made the choice of radical freedom. I am going to be a Nietzsche Ubermensch, and I want to elevate everyone in my field in accordance with good faith and genuine love. We now have to tools to be genuine and part of society at the same time, we just have to get a critical number of people to choose this way of life and educate.
Did you mean how unsatisfied you are doing nothing? Because industrious seems to mean "hard-working, diligent, devoted to success".
From a philosophical standpoint I do agree with the author that difficult, deep work is spiritually enriching. But most bullshit jobs that people work for their 9-5 are not that.
I think people are not sick of work in general, but rather are sick of that bullshit work. Working for subsistence, in a way that is obviously exploitative, to enrich corporate elites who actively seek to keep conditions worse for the working class. The grift is much more out in the open now than it used to be.
The conditions of the working class in America are not ordained by God, but rather maintained by the people who are heavily invested in keeping the system the way it is. We could have much more leisure time, like most other industrialized countries. We could have socialized healthcare, like most other industrialized countries. But we don’t, and when people get fed up with it, we got a slew of blog posts like this explaining that those grievances are all bullshit and they should just shut up and enjoy their work.
Yeah, those Buddhist monks who don't try to achieve anything and yet are happiest creatures on Earth are indeed drones.
The better example here is the guy living off of UBI smoking weed and playing video games all day.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthieu_Ricard you will never be as happy as this guy
Please. Meet more people or just read a newspaper or book. The rich love to whine about dissatisfaction, but it is in the smallest tier of unhappiness. The stress of dealing with (or putting off) healthcare you need but can't afford, being evicted or having your utilities turned off, watching those around you slowly die to a drug epidemic, living every day in fear of being arrested by the police that target your neighborhood or your race.....there are actual hardships in life, and the boredom of being out of ideas on how to spend your money is not one of them.
Imagine being born into a rich family, and knowing from day one that nothing you do really matters. Any screwups you have will be fixed immediately by daddy's money. And anything you accomplish, it'll be like "Well yeah of course they were able to do that because of their privilege." Nothing is yours, you aren't even the one responsible for your successes or failures. Life is meaningless and it's because, as the article is trying to say, there's no adversity to give it meaning.
Nothing actually gives life meaning by the way, that's just a shorthand I used.
People ultimately accept their situation and work within their circumstances to make things better
The first is a prerequisite. Hard work might be needed, but not always, specially if you are born in to a rich family.