We'd need some data about this question to see whether it is a cultural or individual thing.
This hypothesis is quite easy to verify: the sets of activities that I perform at work and in the time I have full control over are strictly disjoint.
This dynamic lead to rich cross-fertilization of ideas and talent between companies. Socialization happened at the ecosystem level, not the company level, and I think it is probably a healthier than tightly coupling professional socialization with a company.
In all my interviews the topics were 1. What is the company doing? 2. What have I done? 3. What can I do for the company?
Never was something like do I share some of the interests / hobbies of the people allready working there relevant.
Maybe it is a match for some people. But then it is a coincidence. You are employed to work and to produce something for the company. It was never about having fun. Stop twisting things.
I always interview so that the team and the applicant meet and can chill a bit and I also ask them about their opinion. Especially for small teams it's way more important to have a personal match than ticking the boxes on the "hard requirements" like coding abilities.
> Maybe it is a match for some people. But then it is a coincidence. You are employed to work and to produce something for the company. It was never about having fun. Stop twisting things.
That's so sad. I'm sorry but you can't ignore the basic biological fact that we are meant to connect with each other.
I really wish that you experience a nice working environment somewhere down the line, but based on the vibes you give off you would block that anyways.