I find a community having a CoC is generally a good indicator of it not being a good idea to participate in it. Which is a little tragic, given that the underpinnings (naive and toxic as they are) do not come from a bad place.

As a mod, it is helpful to have rules to point to when disciplining someone to prevent it from seeming arbitrary.

Things that seem like they ought to be common sense sometimes need to be said explicitly, especially in large organizations that communicate mainly over the internet. I know at least one person who feared for her personal safety for awhile because she became a focal point of a large internet argument about how members of large open-source project ought to treat each other. I think most high-visibility projects have people with similar stories.

Yeah I don't really see a distinction between trolls coming in and posting offensive stuff and ideologues coming in and hijacking a project for their cause. Both are detrimental to actually building something good, and both basically need a benevolent dictator to keep them at bay.

Because people keep saying and doing crappy things, and then when they are called out for it, they claim its just a joke.

thinking the same thing. this infantilization by these grown adults are pretty weird. why is virtue signaling spreading everywhere?

Missionaries have been around for a long time.

Excuse me but "st*pid" is an ableist slur whose use harms and triggers disabled people, which makes it a source of mass psychological harm for an already marginalized group.