I was surprised to learn spartan society had pedophilia built in similar to a mentor system. Will Durant wrote about it, but I never hear anything in pop culture except the warrior bit.
> The word eromenos describes an adolescent boy who is the passive (or ‘receptive’, ‘subordinate’) partner in a homosexual relationship (usually between males), opposite to the word erastes (to love, the older and active partner) in Ancient Greece.
Being gay is about what you’re attracted to. Fucking a fleshlight doesn’t mean you’re attracted to them, after all.
It means if they were, it wasn't necessarily about attraction. (We see this phenomenon in many rapists, incidentally.)