Like, I would consider myself a woman, but not female.
I'm not really interested in debating this; in my mouth, it's descriptive linguistics and anthropology, not an ontological claim.
I do however agree that the obsession my fellow progressives have with terminology belies a deeper fecklessness. Ultimately, it's a form of procrastination that distracts from deeper cultural transformation.
I would that we evaluate every speaker by the measure of their empathy.
When I was a PhD student in philosophy, we called this the 'principle of charity', and, like climate change, I feel its progressive loss with a deep sense of dread.
An ability to put oneself in the shoes of a very-different other is the hallmark of a wise person, and wisdom is retreating faster than glaciers.