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I'm in my mid 30s and been with my wife since I was 15

The issue is that people aren't married to their best friends. You have to like the person more than you love them.

There is also no guarantee that the person who you emotionally click with will also be someone you consider physically attractive. Expecting your spouse to be #1 in everything is setting the relationship up to fail.

Please keep in mind that people can change, sometimes in significant ways.

This is more likely at a young age, i.e. teens into 20s. If you meet your partner in your late 20s and up, they're unlikely to change in significant fashion. Important to consider in pairing with the advice that you can't change a person. Expect a douche to remain a douche.

Yeah I think we've both changed a ton from who we were when we met but we've both become better people, so either we're lucky or we just have a healthy relationship

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