I've been in a similar situation. For me it was a different type of struggle... More, I need to be informed about the space.
I am a firm believer that there are ways to do ads in a manner that respects the end user, is not obnoxious as well, and isn't privacy invasive. And this applies to both buy and sell sides of the industry.
But much of the space is garbage and in some cases malicious, so I block ads with a prejudice, run NoScript on Firefox on desktop and mobile, etc. It's a PITA, but a better experience overall.
It is a bit amusing to watch the changes Reddit is making to "improve the user experience" though, when to people in the industry, it seems like fairly transparently telegraphing development of surfaces for new ad placements or signal collection for targeting models.
What pisses me off is Reddit leadership can't seem to just be transparent about it.