"I don't want to stop using drugs, I just want drugs that are not going to harm me while I use them"
Unfortunately, social media by its nature is going to be harmful. It was never designed to consider the world we live in now.
Unfortunately, social media by its nature is going to be harmful. It was never designed to consider the world we live in now.
We decided we wanted to derive cars, but without the harmful effects of being in crashes, so we decided to create safer vehicles. I like some drugs, and a lot of them are okay in some situations with some boundaries... even if a lot of the users are using them for unhealthy reasons in situations that make the drugs problematic.
I like social media-- I'm literally using it right now to communicate with you. But I do that because I value your thought (even though I disagree with it) and I am able to interact with you in a space that both moderates my behavior by giving up/down vote feedback and which doesn't have a lot of tolerance for poor discourse habits.
If you apply those same rubrics to other social media and don't tolerate them when it violates those boundaries, I believe it's possible to use them in healthy ways.
If you're extending the definition of social media to include sites like Hacker News, you may as well categorize the entire Internet as social media
I feel that the sine qua non of "social media" is user generated content conducted between specific users, tied to specific accounts.
Not even wikis meet that definition, and certainly not most of the author-generated content-based site like blogs or market sites such as amazon, or news sites where the discussion isn't the putative content.
I understand the point that literally any website could be thought of as "user generated"... I've personally made quite a few websites. But the level of interaction and the modalities of how I and a lot of folks use things isn't as interactive as, say, twitter.
So, perhaps for some user populations a Wiki is a social experience, especially for the folks who edit them. Though from my perspective, it feels entirely possible to use it without engaging in that social aspect.
I don't feel the same about Hackernews and/or reddit in general.
I feel like "user generated content conducted between specific users, tied to specific accounts, where users have one-to-one public conversations and those conversations are foregrounded as the site's content" is reasonable.
So, if that's my definition Wikis aren't social media and HN would be.
But I also feel like HN is just a flavor of Reddit, and I feel that most people understand Reddit to be "social media".
I could be worng about those feelings.
I disagree. Social media has never harmed me, I just realized it wasn't worth my time. I've never had issues with self-esteem, confidence, popularity, whatever. I used social media as a photo diary for myself, shared pictures and videos with friends, kept up with what my friends are doing. To this day I check in on social media once in a while just because it's more effective than texting 100+ people to see what they're up to. That being said, I don't think social media is worth more of my time than a few minutes every few weeks or months
How do you know that? This isn't something you can typically know for your self with any degree of confidence.
> To this day I check in on social media once in a while
You've got a lot of recent comments on HN for this to be true. I think you use social media a lot more than you think you do, and it could be impacting you in ways that you don't notice.
Ah so you're that kind of user.
Semantics. I don't consider HN social media, when I say social media I mean instagram, facebook, etc. I consider HN a forum like reddit or other places. My usage of forums is a way to kill time when I'm at work.
> How do you know that? This isn't something you can typically know for your self with any degree of confidence.
Speak for yourself. Maybe you can't typically know this for yourself, but I can. And more importantly, if you're not coming into this exchange in good faith and willing to trust my claims, then any chance of reasonable conversation is gone. I'll be wrapping up my end of our conversation here, thanks.
The drunk driver contradiction. Drunk people are terrible and assessing how drunk they are.
Is wasting your time not a harm?
Somehow coffee is completely different.
Somehow coffee is on the same tier as tobacco or cocaine.
It's not.
Relax.
Enjoy a cocoa.
"I don't want to stop eating food, I just want food that is not going to harm me while I eat it"
"I don't want to stop breathing air, I just want air that is not going to harm me while I breath it"
I don't want to cease all contact with other people. I want to interact socially in non-harmful ways.