five years ago I would have said five years
now I'd say 10
five years ago I would have said five years
now I'd say 10
The problem is the 'feature' of some USB Ethernet controllers where they keep the ethernet link active when the host disconnects. As described in the article, it's the PAUSE frame that some switches forward to all devices on the network causing them to... pause sending data. The link stays up but nothing happens. Perhaps the idea was that you get a fast connection resume, but it's not like ethernet handshaking takes a lot of time so they might as well simply disconnect the ethernet link when the USB ethernet controller notices the host computer has disconnected.
This seems unlikely for the reasons you listed. Since USB is a polled bus and has shared bandwidth, implementing the flow control is likely very beneficial in case the bus can't temporarily handle the full Ethernet speed.
So, a USB-to-Ethernet gizmo just monitors its internal Ethernet-to-USB queue and if it starts to overflow, it attempts to flow control the switch. But, if no USB host is connected, no USB data requests ever arrive, the queue overflows and never gets cleared...
There may also be some WoL/USB remote wakeup stuff at play, which may be why these ICs do not drop the link on USB host disconnect by default. In fact, I wonder if messing with those settings on the host side could remediate the issue...
The weird thing is that there is a whole lot of cool stuff you can do with the on-chip firmware like mDNS proxy for offline devices, but it's all so hidden and vague that nobody bothers to do a whole lot about it.
Keeping to whatever the spec supports is nice, but if the world doesn't work that way you still get a broken product at the end of the day.
Instead of pause, it should (at least have the option to) disconnect. Ethernet link training isn't a computationally expensive and lengthy process anymore, at least not from the user's perspective. Between plugging it in and moving your hands to your input device L1 and L2 are up before you even get a chance to look at your display with L3 being available pretty quickly thereafter.