Most people don't enjoy working 70 hours a week.
A lot of the "so successful" have a TON of help. At the home front things are covered - stay at home wife, cleaners etc. You come home, home cooked meal, wife happy to hang out go on a walk do whatever, kids taken care of.
You go to work, you have the parking spot, the assistant with a schedule. Strong managers.
Again, these are the "so successful" folks.
The 70 hours of work is mostly meetings, strategy, bouncing ideas off people you got to hire to work with. It's not terrible
Ie, Elon Musk is probably working long hours. If my goal was to NOT work long hours that would be a bad company to work for.
It's quite likely that the billionaires putting in long hours are doing so in tasks that are diverse and decisive enough to not be soul crushing - while outsourcing those soul crushing tasks to their subordinates... in fact if that isn't the case then they're executiving wrong.
Finally, being a found who benefits directly from every penny your company earns differs significantly from working plebs that might just be randomly fired tomorrow and will never see any benefit from the company doing slightly better. The motivation is there for Musk in a way it isn't for those who surround him.
That also feels outdated. I don't know many people who are happy to sit at home, prepare meals for their absent spouse, and then smile and be happy to do whatever that spouse wants to do when they get home. That feels like an image from the 50s, not 2021.
At least anecdotally most of the millennial couples with a traditional stay at home set up I know transitioned to that after their first kid without expecting to
The reason your friends transition to a traditional dynamic once they have a kid is because they lived the lie as long as they could so they could fit in with modern societal norms, and then once they were faced with the reality of raising a child, they quickly realized the error of group think. The worst part is that people feel pressured to shift to a traditional dynamic quietly because there’s so much shame around the decision, as if deciding to devote yourself to your family is less noble than working for a soulless corporation.
Also why do you think that it's entirely about gender equality when the younger generations have grown up in an era where wages have stagnated and few families can get by on a single income?
I have a lot more sympathy for the view that traditional gender roles have wisdom as I've had kids of my own, but it really seems like you are over-indexing on it which is especially offensive coming from a man who has historically benefited from the set up.
Believe it or not, even 50s housewives did not sit idly, staring at the clock.
Granted it's not for everyone. But I can see why it would be appealing.
If you're making mid six figures it's ultimately much cheaper than a spouse.
Pretty sure that divorce rate isn't the reason why the misogynist community MGTOW exists.
The divorce rate isn't 2.7 per 1000 marriages, which is what I assumed before clicking on the source, it's 2.7 per 1000 people in the population.
The marriage rate is 6.1 per 1,000 total population, divide one by the other and you find the proportion of marriages that end in divorce: 44%.
You mean working for your employer 70 hours a week, right?
As for me, I make it a point to give my employers what they’re paying for, but nothing extra. I spend a lot of extra time each week performing “work” for myself. Whether it be home improvement or side projects.
Most people don't enjoy spending 70 hours a week working for their employer.
For many jobs being available to do work has value, but a doctor on call that’s sleeping in the hospital isn’t actually working. As such it’s a perfectly reasonable to separate working from bing available to do work.
It's just not true for ALL. And yes, that minority are those who:
* have higher IQ or higher motivation/grit/work ethic or both
* have a marketable set of skills - both hard and soft
* do not fall into simplistic life memes that induce FOMO - they make their own success rather than rely on others to define what success must be and how it must be done
I’m a big proponent of not regularly giving employers extra time, but I urge everyone to make the most of the remaining 168-40 hours a week - that means minimizing idle leisure too.