I am a scientist, I work on these things, and I am here to tell you that:
--Intelligence is largely (~70-80% of variance) inherited
--Your personality is largely determined by genetics and is pretty much settled in to what it will always be by ~30
--If you don't learn to count right by ~4 you never will
--There are, in fact, many people who could never learn calculus
--Sex differences in behavior are driven by genetics and the effects are large
The broad strokes here are not up for debate, and denying them makes you analogous to a flat-earther. The details will change.
There are huge portions of the educated populace who will go to great lengths to spin stories about how it ain't so. They do this because it is comfortable to believe given the normative ethics we were all programmed with as children. Trying really, really hard to believe manifest falsehoods has a lot of practical drawbacks, though. Like the constant, expensive performance of searching for just the right way of teaching calculus to people who will never learn it--public policy that hasn't a chance in hell of ever working.
If you've read this far, and you're feeling upset or angry or uncomfortable with the facts I've listed, I encourage you to reflect on which problems in the world are really important to you. Write them down. For each one ask, "Is continuing to believe in a broken model of how things actually are going to help me solve this problem? Or would I be better off facing an uncomfortable truth and doing what I can with it?"
Thank you for reading my rant, I'll be here all day :-D