You can have pacifist government against war. You can have the opposite.
Norway is a democracy but doesn't have an aggressive miliary posture. The US has the largest army and probably spends 800b on their military.
Authoritarian government manage by suppressing their own people. This requires an aggressive military presence locally. All of the conditions above could be true as well for these types of governments.
Just don't call them brainwashed while uncritically swallowing a story about how we're all free and they're all oppressed, no matter what they say about it.
In a democracy you have many parties and points of view which would naturally lead to lower popularity as it spreads over many ideas. Each takes turns and this system renews ideas.
Why is it so hard to believe people are happy with this?
Did you see that photo in China?
Consider, even if you're that hardcore about it, 'know your enemy' has some value. They understand us but we don't understand them, and sometimes it's willful on our part. We'd rather tell ourselves a story.
I don't think happy with the government is a concept. The question becomes are you happy with society