“Because I think I might know better I will act in a disrespectful way, and make someone else’s job harder instead of working with them to solve the problem”

You’re not the one who’s phone is going to ring at 3am on Saturday when that Tor node gets compromised. You’re not the one who has to manage the security incident. You’re not the one who has to explain why your security controls and policy did not prevent this from happening. Nor are you the one who has to clean up the damage if something goes badly.

I also think you’re vastly overestimating the average developers awareness of security issues. Perhaps you are very well versed in this topic, but many developers are utterly clueless, even when it comes to basic application security practices.