encouraging male teens to understand such sex is, in fact, a crime, that it is never really consensual
Statutory rape. Something a lot of people have difficulty comprehending as actually rape.
Of course, the world still tends to imagine rape as a violent crime. In many cases, it's not. Date rape is another variation of this problem.
women forcing males into sex does not comport with society’s conventional definition of rape.
Last I checked, in far too many cases, the legal definition of rape literally makes it a crime that cannot be committed by a woman. Though hopefully that's changing.