I think the case for std::vector::reserve() is when you know you are about to add N elements via push_back(), you call reserve() with the appropriate size to ensure there is only one reallocation caused by that addition of N elements.
[0] https://www.cplusplus.com/reference/deque/deque/operator[]/
I was thrown for a bit of a loop working through virtual vs actual memory addresses and how this works under the hood, but it makes more sense now. In that case then virtual_vec would be better than std::deque in terms of iterating over the contained data in order.
MSVC allocates items in 16 byte chunks (as in, one allocation per item if sizeof(T) > 8). This will not change due to binary compatibility.
From a theoretical perspective I agree with you though - having chunked allocations is going to be significantly better, and using iterators instead of raw pointers you can also avoid any trouble that might result from non-contiguity (e.g. trying to subtract two pointers - it will work just fine using the iterators).