I was at a social event many years ago at a friend's home. Several families and their children were in attendance. One child started pulling books out of a bookcase. The mother said to the host, "Do you mind Jimmy taking books out of your bookcase?" She answered, "Well, I don't really mind -- but do you really want to be training your child that it's ok to be doing this?"

Yes, I do find it crass and offensive. But the real question is: Do you want to be known as someone who glibly uses this kind of language -- not even in a fit of anger, but totally gratuitously?