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Women are struggling to find men who make as much money as they do

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21 pointshncurious16 comments

This is just about the least information-dense article I've read on the subject. Might as well call it "Couple local gals say they're having trouble finding financially comparable men." Oh, and it's from 2019. How did this make the front page?

Although we like to think marriage is based on love, he says, it “also is fundamentally an economic transaction,” and women want partners whom they can call their equals.

Something does not add up here and I’m calling general BS in this entire article. In one sense its laughing at men by saying women are earning more than you, but on the other, it puts forth this idea that women only care about money and status. That is just not true. Ask yourself: How many women have turned you down because they earn more than you?

How did this ever get through editorial?

In general, I think it's pretty rare that anyone gets comprehensive and accurate information about why they've been rejected. :)

However, you can make some inferences about how it works by what people complain about in their propsect pool.

I don't believe they care only about money and status. When you decide to enter a lifelong relationship, you can't ignore the economic status of your partner, no matter what gender you are. If you marry a person who is in debt, or has children to support, it will influence your economic situation. In general, being together is net-positive by default because you share costs. In addition, it is quite normal in marriage to share at least a part of the income and properties owned and acquired before and after marriage, directly and indirectly.

It does not mean money is the only factor, but is definitely an important one, with the importance being proportional to the difference between the two. It is socially accepted we don't discuss these things openly, but it doesn't mean they don't exist, sociology has been studying it for decades.

I do think every single "real" man has a better prism of assessment that they filter by than this. and women too. implying that the narrow, easier to gauge, objectified dimensions are a critical priority is a neg to an opposing gender, when levelled by a delicate gender that thinks highly of itself, of it's competency, capabilities, & greatness, even when often lacking qualificands to prove so.

This is bad news for me since my partner earns twice what I do (and her hourly rate is triple mine!)

Ah the objectification of men.

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Wasn't this already posted this morning and heavily discussed already? From a better source than the nypost too

You wouldn’t happen to have a link to it would you? Not sure if it was flagged but stories tend to drop off the front page and into the void sometimes.

Discussions like this always get flagged and removed.

Said no men ever...

2019 but just as, if not more, relevant in 2021. And onwards into ‘22 and so on.

Hypergamy will necessitate social acceptance of polygamy in countries in which women out-earn men on average.

I think hypergamy is declining, and likely to decline even further. Purely anecdotally, I know a number of couples where the woman significantly out-earns the man, and I get the impression it is becoming more common. Many women prefer hypogamous monogamy to hypergamous polygyny.

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