I haven't used seaweedfs yet, but it looks better (and small file/object performance should be miles better). W.r.t. to fsync/durability with the seaweedfs API to a volume server you have to turn fsync on via paramter and it is disabled by default. With S3 it is probably also off by default and you can turn it on per bucket: https://github.com/chrislusf/seaweedfs/wiki/Path-Specific-Co... .
Both should default to fsync on, with the option to turn it off. So not a great choice of defaults. Again, it probably looks good in benchmarks when people naively compare S3 stores. But it just shouldn't eat your data per default.