Granted, they often don't think through how to do that, or why the person might be struggling to perform, but it's not usually a belief that the person is incapable of doing better.
Anyway, to say to somebody "don't procrastinate" is like given a guitar to somebody and tell them "just play!". Sure man, how?
I feel like a whole lot of people are trying to help, they're just really bad at it and they need help themselves.
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Thankfully, psychiatry!
Read a book, boys & girls & enby friends.
Yes. This is exactly what I was trying to get across.
Thanks.
This gets to the very important question of how much choice do we really have.
People are the way they are because of how they were raised, their genetics, where and among whom they were raised and their life experiences. There's arguably some choice mixed in there too, somewhere, but how much real choice people have is debatable.
If people don't have much choice in the way they are, it explains why they have a really hard time changing, and there's no sense in blaming them for something they can't change.
Of course some people do change, but maybe that's because they were the kind of person who could, and other people are the kinds of people who can't.
I appreciate that you're very empathetic, and I feel like not everyone else is. There's a whole lot of people who probably can't imagine what it's like to be somebody else. That's hard, isn't it?
But when you tell lazy people not to be lazy, and they don't do it, then it almost sounds like you must either be calling them dumb, or defective.
So that's why I feel like thinking of it as treatable is a nice and friendly middle ground. Which a lot of people don't seem to.
That doesn't seem to be their impulse. Oh, they're lazy. Let's not fix that.