When does living your “best single life” backfire?

That thread is fascinating. It's seemingly entirely occupied by people who are very well educated except for a glaring omission on the question of the most important things in their lives.

It's well known that women very rarely date/marry below their level, which means an extremely narrow dating pool for these women at the top, not matched by their male peers. The same is simply not true for men. And if you're a man thinking of bucking this trend, you're putting yourself in a pretty risky place.

And it must be intensely frustrating for them to find it when they correctly surmise that they're running out of time (for having kids), after no one ever offering this wisdom before they had to suffer the consequences. I'm watching my siblings and my wife's siblings, along with many coworkers, suffer in this way, and it seems agonizing.

Readers are placing a large degree of faith in the author's self-assessment. I, and I imagine many others, have known people who are totally oblivious to exactly how repellent their personalities are. The author may be extremely difficult to talk to, or extremely emotionally unstable. They mentioned 'years of therapy' in their post. Most well-balanced people get through their life without requiring 'years of therapy'. The author states that they have no difficulty matching with men on dating apps. This does not count for much: The difficulty doing so between men and women is totally asymmetrical.

Men and women really do not seek out the same qualities in one another. This should not be as controversial an assertion as it tends to be in the modern social climate. I feel like the so-called "modern woman" was sold a bill of goods when they were told "What's good for goose is good for gander". This is simply not true. High-status men who have choices available to them in the sexual marketplace will generally choose women embodying more traditional feminine qualities. The author of the post even states as much in a roundabout fashion.

I am reading ‘Love and Lust’ by Theodore Reik and I wish it had found me 35 years ago.

Something happened between 1945 and the present that blew out our culture like the ozone layer.

Ordinary approaches don’t work today. I for one read Eric Greene’s ‘art of seduction’ and then got all the references from the library and broke the clip on my gym bag hauling them back to my office. If you are going to get better results than most people you need a fully developed technology of love. It is not something PUAs are really into because it is deeper and takes longer but it is good for forming deep ‘friendships’ and improving how you relate to people.

Most ordinary people will see all the references to life in other centuries and think it is obsolete and go back to tinder. They suck. They can’t be saved. You can be different.

author sounds like they are dealing with what most good people suffer through: a radical overabundance of non independently spirited normies, bearing limited ambitions, small horizons, & low inherent drive. anyone of character appreciates & can mutually enhance those others of character, even if unalike.