Really sorry to hear about your experiences and I must agree that this isn't the way out of this, it just isn't. Situations have unbelievable complexities and these are blanket approaches that will invariably do more harm than good. I think a frustrating argument that I hear from parents and other people on the other side of this is the classical "if you have nothing to hide then X".

They step back on that when the problem is turned around into "why does your house have walls? why do you have locks and doors?". It's not because you have something to hide, it's because of privacy and safety. And we need these spaces to provide us with a modicum of safety and privacy because some discussions can only emerge in those spaces, some ideas need to be discussed in those safe spaces and because I wouldn't want that the world in which modern children grow up in has entirely given up their right to privacy. We always end up using the bad as something that needs to be guarded against, but we seem to fail to see all the positive experiences that have emerged in those safe private spaces as we were growing up...

Hope you are better now and thank you for the write up!