How many people who struggle with porn are actually just using it as a replacement for dealing with more destructive addictions? This was the issue for me, as a problem gambler porn became a scapegoat that I had more control over then gambling. It became a scapegoat for other things as well like not taking care of myself.

The thing is, it was only when I decided to stop having an unhealthy relationship with porn full of negativity and self hatred that I began to focus on my actual issues.

I use porn multiple times a week now, but I make sure to enjoy it, and make sure to think positively afterwards. It is incredible how just shifting your perspective can change things. Porn was not the problem, thinking it was is what put me in a cycle of self hatred.

Now don’t get me wrong, building up willpower and having a foundation to change your life is very powerful, but make sure you are changing the right thing.

A healthy relationship with porn and self love has actually been incredibly beneficial to dealing with my real addiction: gambling.