"I've done small woodworking projects before, and I think I have a pretty good idea of what I need: some wood and a few basic tools: a tape measure, a saw, a level, and a hammer."
The reason I hate frameworks (even things like Django which is very easy to get started with) is that, at some point, I'm asked to re-learn a different way of solving a problem that I've already solved in the past.
I've been doing lots of thinking about this having written the Great American PHP Framework myself, and worked with other people's frameworks, and also worked a lot in the CMS space and the biggest conclusion that I've come to is that the best tools are those that enable you to do things faster or more conveniently but don't actually provide any abstraction.
For example, when deploying a website there are any number of tools to "abstract away" the HTML layer - templating engines, markups, markdowns etc. etc. but the best way to build HTML is using HTML and testing in a web browser, always.
When you need to write some code in whatever web framework you're using to handle a POST request, you want to be as close as possible to the HTTP layer without a bunch of arcane systems in between you and what you and the underlying technology.
Sure it's handy to have tools which automate some repetitive aspects, but if you understand the underlying principles and you know the syntax of the language you're working with, you should at all times be able to just "get it done" however you know how without reading endless documentation and shoehorning your knowledge through a bunch of layers of abstraction.
The same goes for ORM - I want convenience of access to my data, and some automation to handle some of the more boring aspects of writing SQL, but I need to be able to mix and match (yes I know most ORMs allow you to use raw SQL, but it's always one or the other - the ORM or the SQL - I've never used a tool that has a simple method for me to extend the ORM bits halfway through the query building process with some custom SQL).
This is my zeitgeist now and it pervades all the projects I'm working on.