I am a single parent and I too have ADHD & found myself struggling with the same things, so I created a series of "morning routine" Alexa reminders for myself AND my son.

- wake up (dad + kid) - make breakfast (dad) - eat breakfast (kid) - get dressed (kid) - make lunch (dad) - get in car (both) <––plays "Here We Go Again" by OK Go

The results have been AMAZING!!! Voice reminders FTW.

Before this, I was constantly running late. Constantly yelling at him to hurry. Constantly forgetting to make him lunch. It affected his school day negatively. The principal would call me in to tell us about behavior issues.

After implementing this Alexa-based voice reminder system, I started getting my son to school on time everyday with everything he needed. Actually, we had time to spare, so I would park and walk him to class. His school behavior improved dramatically, as did our relationship. Mornings were SO MUCH EASIER because instead of me having to remember and remind him, Alexa was reminding BOTH of us!

I also created an evening routine that caused major improvements in the regularity of his bedtime & bath. Highly recommend both!

You should look into doing something similar.