If you live in a society, you agree to abide by its rules or to move to a different society that better suits you if they will accept you. Otherwise you are a renegade. I don't see how this is avoidable.

A state is considered intact if the government has a monopoly on the legitimate use of force. A state can become predatory if they abuse that legitimacy, but other than that, if the government loses its monopoly, you have what is referred to as a failed state.