This is a bad attitude to hold. Despite common opinion, most IT departments are just trying to meet their own objectives and requirements and are not deliberately trying to frustrate the users under their care.
>Everytime you are going to stop me from writing queries to your server or add more security that makes it harder to do my job without sufficient support to rightfully get through that security,
I would sincerely hope someone in finance would understand separation of duties and generally that being able to arbitrarily manipulate a database without any controls is a bad idea. Especially if it holds business-critical financial data.
> or deny me the ability to download legit software from the likes of Microsoft and other reputable vendors because you have some ridiculous amount of red tape
There is no absolutely zero reason why ordinary users should have administrative control over their workstations in a corporate environment. It's been considered a worst practice for several decades, pretty much every IT framework forbids it, and it genuinely prevents a vast swathe of issues and limits the scope of damage if something does occur.
It also doesn't matter who the vendor is, installing updates without testing to see if they're compatible with your environment is a sure-fire way to break things (and believe me, just because they're big like Microsoft doesn't mean their quality control isn't garbage).
> because you have some ridiculous amount of red tape, I’m absolutely going to question every dollar and be skeptical of how the funding is going to help me or my partners in HR, Sales, Supply Chain etc.
> If your projects help me, and you help me, I’m definitely willing to help you more and fight for you and your budget.
Sometimes IT are required to undertake projects that disrupt or inconvenience other parts of the business, but the reverse is often true. That's just how things go sometimes. Instead of becoming antagonistic, why not talk to IT and try and find out why something is happening and work with IT to solve it? It will be more productive in the long run.