(This always confuses me, can someone that knows GR shed some light on this? I would greatly appreciate it. I've been trying to teach myself GR a while back from the lectures of Frederic Schuller and Alex Flournoy that are available on youtube but it's hard without being able to ask questions)
Spinning black holes have a measured circumference that is not 2 x pi x r.
(Consequences of the accelerating frame of reference include the spaghettification in a black hole... We can't use a mathematical conversion to go to a frame of reference where the subject isn't being spaghettified).
But I think I have found the source of my confusion in my original post, I was thinking about manifolds only in the topological sense and for some reason forgot that when there is a metric then we have to preserve distances. No 'mug and a donut' type of shenanigans.
Observing an object with high relative velocity distorts the observed shape, but all observers can agree what the shape would be at zero relative velocity. For similar reasons astronomers say distant objects are redshifted rather than assuming they are the colors directly observed.
Any definition that relies on trig (sometimes disguised as trig expansion) assumes the existence of a flat Euclidean space - which is a convenient mathematical abstraction in real-world terms, but not required in the general case.
Most everyday physics assumes a flat space, so it's not surprising certain constants fall out of this.
There are more complex and interesting definitions which rely on relationships defined by group theory. I don't know enough about those to say if they're just more complex ways to operate in a flat space, or more complex ways to disguise simple trig expansions, or if they're completely independent, or if something else is going on.
You can get trig functions without any kind of geometry.