I've taken some pertinent college classes, like Intro to Psychology and Social Psychology. These are really hard things to debate in good faith because people look around them at the world, see the reality that men are, on average, taller than women on average and assume genetics when we don't actually know the reason.
So if you have good faith reasons to wonder put loud or speculate about such things, you are likely to get treated dismissively and not taken seriously.
There is a huge component of "them that has, gets" and it's really hard to sort out exactly why x person got y outcome. If you are interested in social justice -- or even just making your own life work when you are the "wrong" demographic -- then these are really frustrating discussions to try to have. It may be some hypothetical argument for someone whose life works well, but it's often a desperate attempt to get a fair shake of some sort by marginalized people.
So there's a lot to unpack there and it's hard to unpack it and there are legitimate reasons why some people feel strongly compelled to not go along with "the obvious answer" that "everyone" knows to be true, even though they may not know how to effectively argue against it.