Dear Mom and Dad, please stick with me (2020)
grownandflown.com
grownandflown.com
I didn't expect to like this article based on the headline, and the fact that the site is basically there to push a product, but in particular these two points jumped out at me.
[Disclosure: we have three kids between 5 and 11...]
We have (only) three rules for our kids. The wording can vary every so slightly depending on the situation but it boils down to:
1. Be safe 2. Be kind 3. _Try and_ do what you're told/asked.
We've always tried to stress that there's a reason rule one _is_ rule one.
A close family friend in his 20s took his own life just before Christmas a couple of years ago. I was with him and his father in the pub one evening, he was telling jokes, less than 24h later his father sent me a message saying he was gone.
So: be safe, and be kind. Everything else is noise.
Just to clarify: we're really not talking about absolute safety, our five-year old seems to be routinely covered in bruises incurrent from falling while climbing on things. Last month she had a couple of slightly loose teeth due to landing on her face while falling from (adult) shoulder height at a playground :eek:
I'm not sure the kids can process "be safe enough" but that's the intention in the "rule"...
I hate seeing kids get paralysed by fear of failure. I want my kids to try and fail, it's the fastest way to learn and succeed.
It was this fear that stopped me from learning to ski until I was in my 30s and finally past the stage where I cared about screwing up and looking silly. Since then the joy I've felt on the slopes has been indescribable.
So on behalf of those future adults, thank you!
Quite simple really: my wife sent me this link because she liked it. I read it and liked it. We have two kids, the oldest being eight, and we're often discussing topics related to the content on the page.
I've seen that there's quite a bit of interest on HN when it comes to parenting so I thought I'd post it. (I do realize it's for some product/service, but I have no clue what that is. No affiliation, I just liked the text.)
That's it.
The JEE would be more of a challenge. JEE Computer Science PhDs with American MD, and astronauts, I think, are more of an accomplishment. The ones I've met talk about the stories of the JEE test process don't brag about nothingburgers.
On top of this, my mother always taught me to keep my friends safe as well. Every time she'd point out something stupid I had done, she would also point out that my friends were bound to make the same mistake. Helped me and my friends avoid some bad situations and highlighted what my mother was trying to teach me.