I agree with a lot of what you are saying, but wanted to add a counter-anecdote about updates.

We have 3x Windows 10 laptops, a MBP that dual-boots with Windows 10, and a Windows 10 tower. On top of that, I also run a Windows 10 VM.

All are running Enterprise edition (I have the Microsoft Action Pack, which includes 10x Enterprise eds licenses), so it doesn't force updates (though it can be a little naggy at times, but I think that's fair enough for security updates at least).

All machines are kept updated at least weekly, though I stay away from the bigger "feature updates" until they've had time to bed-in.

I haven't had a single problem at all with Windows 10 updates during the years I've been using it.

As an aside: even as a relative Windows fanboi, Windows 11 seems like a pointless and unwanted exercise in moving things around and making colours more garish for no reason - a waste of a version bump.