The L-Threonate compound was developed at MIT specifically for better brain absorption. Source: https://dspace.mit.edu/bitstream/handle/1721.1/96066/Slutsky...
I've always been a slow morning person, so 30-60 minutes to start feeling normal is on par for me, so it doesn't really affect my timetable, but you may have a different schedule in mind.
My morning bowel movements when I take magnesium l-threonate are amazing, however, which used to slow me down even more on a typical morning.
The stack: https://www.facebook.com/StrengthSenseiInc/videos/anxiety-so... (sorry for FB link)
Background on Poliquin: https://tim.blog/2015/07/21/charles-poliquin/
I've noted overall anxiety got noteacible better when I added DHEA, I'd guess due to changes in the cortisol to DHEA ratio.
"Vitamin and Mineral Supplement Fact Sheets" [https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/list-VitaminsMinerals/]
For example, the Mg page lists RDA's by sex and age: [https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Magnesium-Consumer/]
It recommends 400-420mg/d for adult males, 310-320 for women (matches the # on my MVM container)
(I found this quickly by starting at the MedlinePlus front page, recommended to me by an Info specialist at a major medical center. Well laid-out readable access to a lot of vetted info from the U.S. National Library of Medicine.)
Theanine is great with caffeine also. I just spoon it in 200-400mg into my coffee.
I've had anxiety problems most of my life, and when a death in the family shook everything it got really, really bad.
I tried everything I could think of except prescription meds (maybe should have, but I didn't like the side effects or addictive potential) and one day while lurking I read a random comment on HN about magnesium.
I decided, Why not, its cheap, and it has had a truly profound effect on my life, among the generally healthy choices I started to make. It took a little time, but it worked a LOT and the muscle spasms and cramps subsided too!
I can't believe sometimes how different my life has become.
Side effect is the high sugar intake, which concerns me somewhat. I can't stand most artificial sweeteners, so drinking light products is no alternative.
It didn't really seem to follow any logic, except I noticed alcohol made them worse. Alcohol also caused an increase in anxiety in the following days. I also experienced symptoms of depression. It was a very dark time.
There was definitely more going on than just magnesium but it wasn't until I tried the magnesium that I had any breakthrough.
Good luck. Another poster in these comments mentioned that you can get non-prescription testing for magnesium and other markers from Walk-In Labs ( https://www.walkinlab.com/ ) if you want to go that route. I also know there are doctors out there that will work with this kind of medicine, but I don't know too much about that. Magnesium is pretty safe, but I understand there is some possibility for problems with taking too much.
I genuinely wish you the greatest success, I'm confident that with careful, thoughtful effort along with your loving support, your spouse can start to feel better.
Maybe consider meditation too? Box breathing[0][1] is an often recommended technique for this sort of thing.
Dr. Andrew Huberman[3] recommends a breathing technique, I cant remember what he calls it, but is easily performed to counteract sympathetic nervous stress: Breath in sharply through the nose, quickly to about half capacity Once, brief pause, followed by a second sharp inhalation through the nose to mostly full capacity, brief pause, and then release the total breath through the mouth. He suggests doing this 2 or 3 times to engage the parasympathetic nervous response.
[0] - https://quietkit.com/box-breathing/
[1] - https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-box-breathing
[2] - Huberman Labs podcast available on RSS feeds - "Overcoming Anxiety" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z25f6qy361Y
You need enough calcium to achieve a strong reliable contraction, and enough magnesium to keep the channels "closed" when they should be closed (among very many other physiological uses).
In short, you need a balance of calcium and magnesium for reliable muscle function. A gross excess or lack of either is bad.
Good Support groups are far better for your health. Although it often boils down to cut carbs.
Around this time I had a few migraines and was recommend to take magnesium. Not sure if that's what caused the sleep starts but I also noticed my leg started to occasionally twitch inwards when I'm sitting. The sleep starts have kept me up for hours at night. Going to try and add more calcium in my diet to see if that helps the problem.
[0] https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZD7R4RF/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_...
Just like if you take some extra Zinc (30mg-50mg picolinate) for a variety of reasons - you have to take a bit of copper with it, or eventually your copper supplies will be drained and start causing issues.
Unfortunately, I know how people actually operate. It's quite depressing.
Malate and citrate are pretty absorbable too, but I (am not who you were responding to but) use Magnesium bis-glycinate (TRAACS) form. It works well enough.
Keep in mind I am not a doctor or biologist, but many common forms of magnesium, commonly in multivitamins, are absorbed (slowly) via metal channels which require calcium to be taken as well or else the absorption slows and stops. As a result, it will pass through your GI instead of being absorbed into your body.