The difference here is that systemd actually went to the individual distro maintainers and listened to their concerns, made the necessary changes, and convinced them all to adopt it. That's damn hard to do in the Linux world, I commend anyone who can do it successfully.
Regarding your part 2: For whatever reason, there is an absurd amount of misinformation posted whenever systemd comes up. If you posted something that was wrong about some other service manager, I would correct that too. You deserve to know the right answer to things, for your sake, not for the sake of systemd (or any other program). Please don't dismiss attempts to correct misinformation as being unproductive, it's the flame war which is the unproductive part.