You're not wrong to want to write code your way. Not everyone is meant to conform to the absurdities you describe. Honestly, I don't know how you tolerated it for this long.

Write code your way for yourself. Find a way to turn a profit on your own. Solve problems that create passive income for you.

Being yourself is perfectly valid. I'm not sure therapy is healthy if conformity is the desired outcome. Others might have ways of putting you in boxes and providing shifting diagnoses. That's fine. Ignore it and do your own thing.

Earn your own money, your own way. Embrace your eccentricities. Use them to your advantage. When you are successful, people will look to you as a standard or model for correct behavior. Therapy won't be recommended.