Since then:
- My default look for all work, dates, shopping is always the same(except maybe suit colour), apart from sporting activities.
- I never EVERY have to worry about what to wear or what to buy.
- I AM "the guy in the suit". ALWAYS. EVERYWHERE.
- I do not spend any money on clothes (Except maybe one, two new shirts every year and shoes every two years).
- Ladies DO notice. Its EXTREMELY powerful visual magnet for women, and for my ego/confidence.
- Managers DO notice. I AM THE GUY. I SOLVE SHIT. I LOOK GOOD. I CARE.
- People respect me as default.
- People do remember me.
- For some people I seem "stiff" :/ But such is price...
Heinlein said it better:
>“A rational anarchist believes that concepts such as ‘state’ and ‘society’ and ‘government’ have no existence save as physically exemplified in the acts of self-responsible individuals. He believes that it is impossible to shift blame, share blame, distribute blame…as blame, guilt, responsibility are matters taking place inside human beings singly and nowhere else. But being rational, he knows that not all individuals hold his evaluations, so he tries to live perfectly in an imperfect world…aware that effort will be less than perfect yet undismayed by self-knowledge of self-failure.”
This has not made me notably happy or successful or anything; but I know who to blame when I get upset about that.
Especially in my marriage.
When difficult feelings arise, giving a stream of consciousness dump of my thought process. All feelings. Weird feelings. Feelings that won’t paint me in the best light. All gets revealed to my spouse.
It’s from the book Conscious Loving.