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Hi everyone, I wanted to share my experience. Since I’m a teenager, I like an Israeli singer (Omer Adam) and I’d never been to his concert. So, now the corona is gone he announced he’s having a concert in Israel and I was excited about it. So, I start calling my friends one by one and ask them to come with me. All of them were busy or did not like this singer. So, I ask my colleagues to come. They were busy also. So, I resign myself no to go and wait for the next time he’ll appear. Suddenly, I received a call from one of my colleagues and he says that his wife knows someone who knows someone etc. who loves this singer. I had so much desire to attend this concert that I just ask for his number and text him. We talk a little bit on WhatsApp and we decide to attend this event together. It was the best concert I ever been to in my life. The concert was great, and it was so fun to be with someone like him. We had a lot of fun (for the record we are still in contact now). So when I wake up the morning after the concert, I start asking my friends: “did you ever cancel an event because no one was here to come with you?” and most of the answers were “Yes”. So, I thought there is something to do for the community. I start to build a small website where I will connect people who share the same passion. I thought it simple, just a form to fill with a small description of yourself, and which events do you want to attend and I will find you a partner. I already made 2 matches and these people were happy. Now that corona is over let’s enjoy life. Whatever what’s your passion there is always someone to share it with you. You just don't know him yet. If you recognize yourself or know friends that share the same problem sign up or share with them. (www.sharemypassion.net) Thanks, everyone for reading my post, fill the form I will do my best to help you guys.

If you want to go to an event, and don't have anyone interested to go with you. Don't miss out on the opportunity that you're interested in. It's perhaps something that people need to learn when they grow up, but you can have a great time just going by yourself. Take yourself out on a date if no one else is going to ;)

I'm agree but as I said before i don't love to go to an event alone it's always more fun to share with someone. Hopefully I met someone who came with me and It was fun. My friends were busy so I didn't fit and If I can bring to other the happiness of going out with someone like me it can be with pleasure.

I don't know if I'm right but going to a concert or a festival will always be more fun with others. :)

At the end I think that because of social media we are more alone and a website like that can help us share our experiences with others. It's just benefits !

Great to read you comments :)

I have found that the philosophy of “I will have even less fun not going at all rather than going alone so I should at least go alone” works wonders.

Dude yeah I like high quality techno music and I go to shows by myself sometimes since none of my friends really understand a good rave.

Sometimes I just rave solo but sometimes I make new friends and almost always enjoy it.

It can happen; I prefer going with someone and also making new friends there :)

Hey dude, I just read a bunch of the comments here. The HN crowd was always going to be a tough sell. Too many lone wolves, and proud ones at that (!), who don't realise that not everyone has the same sense of self-assurance to do things alone, and who forget that many others prefer company much more than they do.

I think the idea is great. As you realised yourself, COVID laid waste to a lot of social networks (the in-person kind, not facebook & co), so the timing of your project could hardly be better. The website looks slick, the url is a fantastic choice. I wish you the best of luck.

Thanks for your comment I really appreciate that.

I will try to do my best, for now it's just a side-project to help people as much as I can and we'll see.

I never understood why people are so resistant to doing things by themselves.

Just do it, no one gives a shit.

Safety can be a big part, but some people just want someone to talk to.

It's not resistant it's depend on which thing. For example I don't no anyone who will go in a restaurant alone for dinner. Restaurant it's not to eat it's more to share with others. The same as festivals, concert, conference or trip we are human we want to share with others. The only problem it that sometimes we just didn't find the right person yet.

That's my point of view, and there is a lot who will not agree to ! :)

> For example I don't no anyone who will go in a restaurant alone for dinner, it's weird.

I do this, it's not weird. I go to different restaurants for the food, not necessarily to hang out with friends (although I do that as well of course). If I go to some high end Michelin star restaurant, I probably couldn't get a friend to go with me if not for a specific occasion. But if I want to eat their presumably world-class food, I'd have to go by myself.

Same. I go to eat by myself, go to the movies, etc. fairly frequently. I crave that alone time where I can just be with my thoughts while enjoying something else.

I remember the first time I went to the movie theatre by myself. It was definitely an unfamiliar experience, but in the end I did rather enjoy it. Later in life I found myself travelling for work so you get in the habit of, and really appreciate doing things on your own.

Maybe a way to approach it is to decide that you are going to an event by yourself. Invite some friends. If they say they'll come, great. If they cancel, back to the original plan.

Is it that much better than the food you could make at home? To me the exorbitant price has always been about the locale and the privilege of sitting there.

I'm not a world-class trained chef, so yeah it is better than I can make at home. Trust me, the difference in taste absolutely exists.

Usually its because an ungodly amount of butter and salt is used that normally wouldn't be used by home chefs.

Yes.

At home I am limited in my skills and in the quality and variety of ingredients. In a restaurant (one where the chef actually makes food, not a place where it's microwaved, cooked from frozen, or just repackaged restaurant supply food), I get a skilled chef using many high quality ingredients which I cant get my hands on for any reasonable price to use at home.

I'll still avoid getting certain things at restaurants that I could make at home (many pasta dishes for example), but there are so many things I'd have a lot of trouble making myself.

> Is it that much better than the food you could make at home?

Oh, my goodness, yes. My experience was Alex in Las Vegas before it closed.

The food was, of course, excellent.

However, the wine pairing was phenomenal. Most of the wines were very good to start but putting them with the particular dishes made both of them amazing.

So, for starters, unless your house readily uncorks 8 unique, really good bottles of wine to pair with 8 courses, you are certainly getting something very different, at least.

Now, I will grant you that this was before the whole "It's more important to post my food pictures on social media than actually enjoy the food." So, things may have changed.

I don't drink, but wouldn't 8 glasses of wine get a person properly pissed? Or do they do tiny glasses?

Yes and yes.

You get approximately half-portions, but it's still probably close to 5 glasses of wine. You will get quite drunk if you drink it all yourself.

However, being Vegas, you don't have to drive. So, even if you are a bit drunk, it's not a big deal.

There’s nothing strange about going to a restaurant alone. Or a movie. Or a play, concert, etc.

I’ve done all the above many times, in addition to doing all the above with other people many times.

Maybe you right guys! I don't know.

After this discussion I think the world is divide in kind of people: - the one who love to hang out alone (even if they have friends) - the one who can't do big things alone

I tried to help the second one ! :)

I never understood why going to a movie was supposed to be a group activity. You sit in silence for two hours... how is that somehow enhanced by the fact that you're with other people?

Hand-holding can be nice. Discussion after a movie is best if everybody sees it at the same time. Discussion during a movie might be appropriate if the movie is atrocious.

this i agree with. Restaurant, on the other hand, is never about eating to me. I'm the kind of (rare?) person who could not care less about food, at home or otherwise. So the whole point of restaurant is to meet someone and some people just don't accept an invitation for just a long walk. That said I do eat alone in a restaurant when I feel too bored.

The only problem with going to a restaurant alone is that sometimes they clear your table when you get up to use the restroom.

haha this never happened to me because I'm always with someone but it's seems really funny (not for you because when you come back you don't have place anymore) :)

Eating alone in a restaurant with a bar (esp. at the bar) is probably among the best way to spend time alone and/or to meet people ever invented.

I can understand but I'm not talking about that.

Concert are different this is not the same as being alone in a bar seating. :)

OP is probably not an American. In the US it's quite normal to eat alone, in Europe (with a few exceptions) it's extremely odd to eat or drink alone at a bar or restaurant. Germany is particularly bad at this, and as someone who's had to travel across Europe for years for work, it took a lot of time to get over the odd stares in most places.

It's one of my favorite things about the US, being solo is way more accepted than in most of the rest of the West.

The thing I want to do is to do something with someone else.

Fully agree

Hey guys, Just to say that I made an update and the website is now a forum so everybody can talk if you want to visit it and tell me what you think I'll enjoy it.

Thanks,

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