At the risk of presumption, I'd advise to be wary of overprojecting though. Different people have very different experiences, and your kids' may not be the same as your experience. Observe and react.
To me, the notion that school was so horrible that having children if off the table says that was a traumatic experience that hurts to this day. Not healthy to carry that.
I say that as someone who was bullied in elementary school to the point that I was afraid to go outside or have my picture taken. People who cared intervened and helped me overcome that, and anyone in that situation deserves the same.