Startup engineers are often young and do not have much savings.
Options are a cost, often in the 5 to 6 figures range to exercise. If you exercise at time of hire, your cost can be significant for something that will probably perform less than putting it into bitcoin as far as expected value goes. If you count exercise cost as part of the 'salary', then startup salary is even worse than it usually is.
When you leave, the options expire away typically after 90 days. If you exercise, even if they are ISOs, AMT tax can easily make the exercise cost 6 figures anyway. Most engineers in their mid 20s do not have 6 figures in savings unless they already worked at FANG for the first 4 or 5 years of their career. You have to choose, do i put most of my savings into something that will probably go nowhere? Most do not and lose out on the significant compensation they would of at FANG. It's a system that favors the already wealthy and young adults with wealthy parents.
Companies actively try to prevent giving liquidity to employees through restrictive clauses. The best case scenario is an employee that works hard and then forfeits their equity due to the above math. The company has a financial incentive to screw employees over and seduce them with unlikely projections of life changing wealth.
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On the other hand, founders have stock at the start, valued at $0. Even if they have a vesting schedule, they can pre-exercise for no cost. Since it's extremely unlikely that they will sell in the first year, all of their income from that stock in the future will be taxed at LTCG rates. Since the average employee can't afford to pre-exercise (or they get RSUs), they pay at income tax rates, so if they do get lucky, they've compressed 4-8 years of equity compensation in one year, which means they pay %25-%35 more in income tax alone. Employees are often subject to 6 month lockups after IPO, which means if it drops, they have to pay tax on a value that is much higher than they can liquidate with the stock they actually have.
Founders often get special liquidity access that employees don't, in secret, during funding rounds. VCs do this to align the founder's interests with theirs, which is going for an outlier $10B IPO vs. liquidate at $300 million at series B, because if the founder has %20, that is a life changing $60 million, taxed at LTCG rates, that makes you an ultra high net worth individual, but is basically a failure from the VCs perspective.