I'm not aware of a good book, but here's a website that has finally made me understand postmodern thermodynamics :
(Though I perhaps have a non-common path of learning modern thermodynamics, then skipping basic physical statistics, only to jump into advanced physical statistics later ?)
http://www.av8n.com/physics/thermo/entropy.html
Some core ideas :
- 19th century modern thermodynamics are hopelessly obsolete (at least if you want to understand the "why" and/or do stuff more advanced than "basic" heat engines ?) with tons of confused notions like "heat".
- The term "thermodynamics" itself is bad, "energo-informatics" would perhaps be a better one ?
- Entropy is just a redundant term for (the lack of) information about a system (= macrostate = distribution).
- Hence, you need at least some quantum mechanics : Heisenberg's unsharpness principle (and Plank's constant h) to be able to build the theory from the microstate up, because you need to be able to quantize position and momentum to define information.
- disorder is another of those misleading terms