Why are young men so scared of sex?

I am 24 and I think she would not be happy to date me. I am attractive and have a nice FAANG SWE job, but I am not really looking for a relationship or even casual sex. I think there are a few reasons for this.

One is that I am totally fine with my life as it is - I have some friends, some hobbies, and unlimited entertainment via computers. I don't really get bored much, and so I don't really need to leave my comfort zone to have a good time. The pandemic has really intensified this because there is far less "fear of missing out" on a fun event when nobody is going outside.

Another reason (and probably more important) is that I can't seem to get aroused when I am actually hooking up with a girl. I had quite a few hookups during HS and college but have never really had a "successful" one so to speak. I am not sure why this is the case, I think it must be something to do with watching porn throughout the years, starting at an early age. It's like my sex drive has burned out, I just never really feel horny when with a real person. I used to be really depressed about this but at this point I have pretty much accepted it, and I just make zero effort to find a hookup. There is something really humiliating and terrible about hooking up with a girl and not being able to perform, and it is an experience I am not anxious to repeat.

Not sure why I felt the need to post this, but it's my situation. People who have known me for a while know I don't make any effort with women, but if you just met me, it will probably take a while for you to realize due to my highly practiced "mask".

I'm not a young man but I told my son who is now a young adult two things.

A pregnant partner will change your entire path and options forever.

Also, one in five people in America have herpes, and one in five of those people don't know it. If it's not "one in five," it's "some number" significant enough to pay heed.

Those would seem enough to at least slow your roll.

I’m calling bullshit.