A modern CPU has 200Gb/s of bandwidth. If the objects in your array are 200 Gb in size each, then swapping the position of two elements in a vector is going to take O(seconds) at memcpy speeds, while doing this with a linked list is going to take ~1 * 10^(-11) seconds.
That's a performance difference of 11 orders of magnitude...
You can make the objects in the array smaller (e.g. 200Mb each instead of 200Gb each) and your two-element swap would still be 10^8 times faster with a doubly linked list.
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In the parallel threads, people seem to just be arguing that a vector is always faster than a list, without understanding "why" this is the case, and making claims about "what the hardware does" without doing basic rule-of-thumb calculations to verify their claims.