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yea I concur. everything up to mid 20's was a long dry spell. Now I'm in my late 30's and easily meeting women 10+ years younger than me. Helps that I hit the gym, have a successful career and am well read and well travelled. I've had a few women my age that I knew when I was younger who are still single and now showing interested in me (I was friendzoned to hell before) but why bother with them when my options keep getting better as I age?

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This comment made my day. I'm 31, founder of startup in an area I genuinely have high hopes for but is neither taking off nor dying.

I also moved to Europe from the bay area to do this, at age 28 feeling like I had one more adventure in me.

The uncertainty of the startup and knowing there is no way I would ever accept regular employment (software/computer vision/robotics if curious) in Europe has made me extremely hesitant to think about family.

I have no concern for my future earning potential, besides the difficulty of getting back to the US with covid (I'm not American, yet...).

30 hit like a truck though, and a year and a half on hold with covid doesn't help. Thanks for sharing your experience of being basically me +10 years.

Might consider getting my sperm frozen though. How would "Don't worry, I froze my sperm" work as a tinder line?

Anyway, thanks for the HN therapy.

> "Don't worry, I froze my sperm"

You think this is great / that it might be great, but it is not: It is creapy. You'd find out about this at some point and drop it. Women do not work like that.

If you want to have a family, do it.

I don't understand your comment about freezing sperm though. Unless you have some medical issue fertility issues don't usually occurs for men until decades after 30.

That's not true actually. Fertility declines while birth defects increase.

While it's more dramatic in women, it happens for men too.

I worded what I said very carefully.

Fertility does decline in men with age, but it's not really a concern for most men until 45-50: https://www.britishfertilitysociety.org.uk/fei/at-what-age-d...

you have plenty more adventures in you! I've got 5 years on you and still kicking. As a CTO, it helps to keep your mind fresh with new experiences. Some of my best ideas have come from walking around new surroundings.

My advice for staying young

1. cut down the sugar

2. limit alcohol

3. lift weights regularly

4. stay out of usa, its unbelievable toxic to be there now

europe is great. I'm a US citizen but my startup is in london.

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