Are you guys also on the autistic spectrum too because that is no way to raise kids. When they leave the carefully curated and filtered walled garden that you've created for them and enter the real work at 18 or so, they are going to be hit like a truck. In college its always the kids whose parents were the strictest that act out or become alcoholics when the finally get a taste of freedom. You cannot do everything for them, it is better now for them to experience more of the world/ internet when you still can influence them/ they have a high opinion of you rather than ten years down the line when they feel betrayed or whatnot by you and don't want to speak.