Edit: sorry I caught this before your edit to include popular buzzwords like "toxic". Good for you, I'm actually looking for games and experiences that are outside the realm of sanitized things my mother would like.
And I'm sorry about your girlfriend, it was likely my girlfriend giving her so much shit. She's a real sailor when she gets going. And mean too!
It seems aaomidi is recounting personal experience, and from my own experience, when a person earnestly uses “toxic” to describe how other participants behave it is often an apt description.
If you are human, you’re a person with emotions. When a person describes something you might enjoy as toxic, are you able to pause and notice what you’re feeling, and then choose whether or not to act?
I did this before responding to you, in an effort to help others that struggle with this, (I do, in some contexts). If a person still chooses to respond in a dismissive manner, or worse, then perhaps they enjoy being mean to others.
The same minds that gave me shit for plainly stating that light speed wasn't sexist in a 1982 class room, I'm sure.
I prefer the 'toxic avenger' style usage from the past.