Assuming you're a straight male, I dare you to cry in front of your girlfriend/wife.
Maybe some parts of toxic masculinity are perpetuated more by women and the media than other men.
Absolutely. During the Kavanaugh confirmation process I was blown away by how many women spouted off the "boys will be boys" excuse. It was frankly disgusting. In a similar way, the body image problems that so many women have are very much driven by male ideals about beauty.
> I've cried in front of maybe three SOs. In each case, they were very understanding and empathic about it and their sexual attraction toward me started a gradual but inexorable slide to zero.
> I've learned my lesson.
If you're a man and you're with a woman who stops being attracted to you because you've cried in front of her, that's a great thing, because you've dodged a bullet, and found a strong signal that you should find a better girlfriend.
If you want to roll the dice then fine. But some of us are sick of being hurt and seeing others getting hurt.
In fact, I think this is common enough that it contributes in part to the high suicide rates for divorced men as opposed to divorced women [0] - women have friends that they can lean on emotionally during this time while men don't typically cultivate that kind of relationship.
Nothing can ever be a woman’s fault.
This "men don't cry" thing is a point of toxic masculinity. Men and women both perpetuate it. 'Tis silly.