The thing is that, as a male startup cofounder with two young kids (my cofounder is a woman with two kids), I’ve found that I’m usually the one fighting to make decisions that allow me to spend more time with my kids, whereas my partner just can’t get enough nights and weekends to keep working. I don’t know if I’m the exception or if more dads just don’t talk about it.

At a population level, this is still likely something women tend to prioritize more than men, and that you usually can’t have it all, but I don’t want to miss my kids growing up and no company is worth missing that, the one exception being all the COVID response work we’ve been doing. That’s been a worthwhile (and temporary) trade-off.

Just wanted to say that there are also fathers struggling with that balance.