Do a test drive. Offer your friends to babysit their kids and see how it goes...
1. Watching other peoples’ kids is a time-limited exercise. A major challenge with your own kids is that it’s constant and effectively without end.
2. There’s a big difference between kids and MY kids. I just have more intrinsic interest in my own. I do have more “tools” available to me to engage with others’ kids now (up to my own kids’ ages at least) but I care less. Not saying I dislike others’ kids, just that it’s different.