Radicalizing the Romanceless (2014)
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"In high school each extra IQ point above average increases chances of male virginity by about 3%. 35% of MIT grad students have never had sex, compared to only 20% of average nineteen year old men
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If you’re smart, don’t drink much, stay out of fights, display a friendly personality, and have no criminal history – then you are the population most at risk of being miserable and alone. “At risk” doesn’t mean “for sure”, any more than every single smoker gets lung cancer and every single nonsmoker lives to a ripe old age – but your odds get worse. In other words, everything that “nice guys” complain of is pretty darned accurate. But that shouldn’t be too hard to guess…"
The social conditioning of girls is preferring the popular person. The social circles decide half of what's attractive, and that's generally outgoing, 'popular' types and not your math nerd. This is even true for intelligent girls, as most of them are socially conditioned to value characteristics conventionally perceived as musculine and / or attractive. Often the characteristics of the partner decide the girl's social standing among the peers.
I might get a lot of flame for mentioning this, but there's a concept called Fischerian runaway. Basically the fact that female sexual selection is fragile and doesn't always lead to good kind of evolution.
This is probably one thing that conservative cultures get right. If you're a 19 year old studying engineering or medicine in India, no one judges you because you are a virgin. (The culture has it's drawbacks, too. I am not downplaying them).