I think it's hard to get a straight answer to your question. People who are heavily invested in Elixir will tell you everything is fine and use esoteric metrics to prove their case.
Follow your hunch and common sense.
For example, while for many Elixir has been a 'step up' from Rails, most advice given, even deep in Elixir land, is that Rails might still be the preferable choice for a variety of reasons.
I imagine part of the reason is that most of 'us' don't use Elixir exclusively, so we can't just bail out of all other ecosystems and do the whole us vs them thing.
On the other hand, the above commenter seems to actively go out of their way to comment negatively about Elixir whenever it's mentioned on HN, and I still don't really understand why anyone would put in that kind of targeted effort.
So I totally understand and agree with what you said.
Also, the vscode editor plugin for elixir is atrocious.
And finally, this is more of a personal preference, but I don't like compilation, makes development a lot slower. So ruby/python/raw node are better for me.